tokumaru wrote:
If you have any interesting stories, I sure would like to hear them.
I assume you mean about life vs. work choices, or people abandoning technology. This is actually an incredibly common thing nowadays here in Silicon Valley -- it's prolific enough that it's become a
tongue-in-cheek joke (note the yellow and blue tiers). People work in tech for several years, then suddenly have some kind of "life epiphany" (often while employed, but sometimes when between jobs), followed by literally dropping
everything in their life and either a) disappear, b) flip out and make some massive change to every aspect of their lives, or c) melt down.
I'll share some stories of this happening at a past few jobs. These are true stories. I don't have years (of when the event happened) on a couple of them because I simply can't remember.
1. 2000 - Had a guy in operations/engineering who just literally stopped showing up for work one day. Our environment required that all employees be physically present (i.e. no remote work). Attempts to contact the guy failed; didn't answer Email or telephone (work or personal). A colleague went to his house and he didn't answer the door. This went on for 2 full months (my boss was wonderful but sometimes a little too lax). At the end of 2 months, the guy finally answered his phone, but wasn't able to give a clear explanation for why he just disappeared (apparently he just mumbled). He was let go (which was sad, because he was actually a great engineer and a really good guy).
It wasn't until about 6 months later that colleagues of his found out what happened. All I know: he had the equivalent of a mental and emotional breakdown as a result of discovering his wife cheating on him in EverQuest (don't ask). But it wasn't just depression -- he stopped paying his mortgage, bills, and all sorts of major important things. His (then-become-ex) wife kept paying for the mortgage for a while but had to stop because she had moved out (essentially was paying for two houses, one of which she didn't live in any more).
Several years later, I found out the guy had moved to Texas to live with a random friend of his (because he essentially had nothing left here, plus the divorce left him with less than before). As I understand it, he still does not hold a job, and has no desire to interact with any person he knew prior to the event (friend or otherwise, including old co-workers). Meaning: some part of who he was as a human being/individual was completely shattered. The fellow was in his mid-30s (I think).
2. 2001 - Same job as above, different guy. Guy just stops showing up for work, but is available via Email on super rare occasion (once a week or so). This goes on for about 7 months, and the timing was extra bizarre because we had all been informed our entire division (about 30 people?) was to be laid off right after Christmas. So during those 7 months this guy just "disappears" from work. Nobody is sure what he's working on/doing, if he's even alive (boss had called him a few times so he did seem to be alive but just would not really "respond" unless he was engaged by my boss) -- tools/infrastructure he was responsible for went neglected. But it gets worse/weirder.
Sometime in November, I happened to be late at work one night (around 0300), I think working on some Parodius stuff, when suddenly into operations strolls this dude. I'm like "{name}! Holy shit! I thought you were dead dude! WTF!" and he just says "Heh", sits down at his computer, does something for about 20 minutes, then leaves. Any attempt at convo I made with him just resulted in nods but no eye contact, it was like he was engaged heavily in some computer-related task.
Here's where it gets super weird: this guy had about 8-9 computers on/around his desk (all public servers on the Internet for various things, and some were servers that managed internal services -- the important part is
the hardware was his, meaning he owned it, and was probably several thousand USD worth of stuff). When our division got shut down, it was done in phases. First they took our physical desks and chairs (but left equipment), then they took out the networking/wiring, then they took out everything else. (FYI: this is not common, I've never heard of a layoff happening like this, so this was bizarre)
But anyway, this guys' servers were all over his desk, with intertwined Ethernet cables and switches and so on. So when the decomm guys showed up to take the desks, they had to figure out how to remove his desk without impacting any of the equipment. My boss, his boss, and the decomm guys all called this employee who didn't answer. They ended up having to cut part of the desk (with a saw or something) to get the desk out without impacting any of the power/network cables or the equipment. It was like a circus watching these guys having to do this.
The 2nd phase came through 4-5 days later, networking decomm folks came in and took all the cables + shut off the in-wall RJ45 ports. Did the guy show up to get his stuff then? Nope. So there were several servers still powered on, with no network access, sitting there. You'd think bare minimum this would be the time someone would get their equipment...
3rd phase came through -- by which time the room was nearly empty except for these several servers sitting in a corner -- and the breaker was flipped. All the machines shut off, and all of those boxes were taken by the company and thrown in the trash (they couldn't take them or put them in storage -- they didn't own them, and they weren't going to pay for some random dudes' equipment being in storage). They tried calling him that same day, no response. Who knows what data was on them.
It wasn't until 3-4 years later when there was a "nostalgia get-together" for all the ex employees where this guy was seen. He acted like nothing had happened, like there was nothing odd about anything that went on, etc.. When asked politely "hey man so I mean what happened with your boxes? You didn't get 'em?" he just smiled -- no other reaction. Super, super weird.
I've always (jokingly) maintained that he wasn't able to answer the phone or get his equipment because his wife had him strapped to the wall with chains and in leather (him and his wife were fairly... shall I say... "alternative" in both their lifestyles and they were fairly public about their "bedroom behaviour" -- didn't bother me in the least, but it made for a funny explanation).
3. 2003 or 2004 - An employee didn't show up for work, which was major because it was a NOC (i.e. shift-based work). Several calls were made (home/cell), no response. After 72 hours of no response, employee was officially terminated, even though nobody could reach the guy. No one knew what happened.
About a few days later, the guy calls up work to explain what happened. Apparently while driving on the freeway to work, he had some kind of "epiphany" about life, and
just kept on driving. He proceeded to "take whatever roads he felt were right", and ended up driving from California to
Nebraska. He literally left
everything he owned at his apartment/flat, told nobody what he was doing -- basically just said "fuck it" and drove.
I have no idea what happened to this guy (he was gone before I started working there, but it was a story most of the employees during that time enjoyed recalling because of how weird it was).
4. 2004 - Same job/place as #3, different guy of course. Comes into work one day with his hair dyed bright blue (more specifically: like a Smurf), and sits down and does no work. After about 30 minutes, announces he's quitting, takes his stuff and leaves -- no anger/animosity, he just seems super happy. AFAIK he didn't sign any "I'm gone" paperwork because he just disappeared. Over the next several weeks, he periodically Emails the workplace (specific people/employees) with his "status" of "where he is", and eventually one day includes a couple photos.
He apparently quit his job, took all his money out of the bank, took a small knapsack filled with random items (clothes, etc.), left everything he owned, bought a plane to Saudi Arabia, flew there, and decided to live there. More specifically:
live in or around the sand dunes. He included pictures of himself surrounded by 6 or 7 other people, all looking either high or drunk as fuck, with this weird makeshift tent they made in the desert. If I remember right, that Email with the picture included a key piece of information, and that was: he was in Saudi Arabia
eating Cheerios or something to that effect. That was the last anyone heard from him -- no clue what happened past that.
So basically these stories are of people who are already in some sort of "extreme" state of mind, but the thing is, this kind of shit happens regularly in Silicon Valley. I'm not from here, so it's extra weird; I find this kind of thinking/approach bizarre, because it's literally like someone deciding absolutely no responsibilities matter (at any level) and just bailing (on life, work, whatever) sporadically. Doesn't matter if they're without work, no income, how it reflects on their CV/resume, etc. -- just flat out don't care.
I like to think all of these people now do something unrelated to technology, e.g. own vineyards, are fishermen, live in northern Canada with native Inuit, or something along those lines. It's like they just completely fell off the grid (of society and societal norms), and AFAIK none of them ever re-engaged with their technological career line. So what they do now in life is completely unknown. But it just goes to show (I think) that despite their weird approach and irresponsibilities/not giving a shit about how their actions affect those around them, it's very possible that technology causes a person (maybe in the last 3 cases, not so sure the 1st) to become disillusioned or feel like they've become alienated by something. It's hard to put into words.